Thanks so much!
I’m not “selling my body” any more than a masseuse, or a construction worker, or a physical trainer, or a circus performer. On stage, I perform dance and pole tricks in exchange for tips. In lapdances, I provide people with a fantasy of intimacy. I use my body for work, just like any other physical laborer. Just because my form of labor involves nudity and sexuality doesn’t mean I’m selling any part of myself. My body never exchanges owners at work. It is always mine.
Even full service workers aren’t “selling their bodies,” they still retain control and autonomy over their bodies before during and after the transaction. Is a school buying the janitor’s body to clean toilets? Are day laborers bodies being bought? I would argue even traffickers aren’t selling “bodies”, they’re selling laborers. ESP when the trafficked already know what kind of labor they’re migrating to do.
Wrt stripping, we sell a commodified sexualised service, one tailored to each client we interact with. It takes real misogyny and a real focus on seeing sex workers not as autonomous people but as mindless—if beautiful—bodies to be bought and sold.
In fairness, the actual buying and selling of people in the sex trade is a serious problem almost everywhere on Earth, a problem that no doubt contributes the stigma of legitimate sex work. But perhaps that issue could be addressed if sex work was seen as legitimate enough in the eyes of the law to be worth regulating like any other form of business.
- BOOBS DO NOT HAVE SOUND EFFECTS
- BOOBS DO NOT BLOW IN THE WIND
- BOOBS DO NOT STAND STRAIGHT UP
- BOOBS CAN NOT BE TWICE THE SIZE OF YOUR HEAD WHEN YOU’RE TEN YEARS OLD
- NIPPLES SHOULD NOT BE LONGER/BIGGER THAN THE ACTUAL BREAST
- THEY ARE NOT PERFECTLY SPHERICAL
- THEY DO NOT BOUNCE BACK WHEN SOMETHING HITS THEM
- AND THEY ARE NOT GRAVITY DEFYING
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Fucking gross, don’t do any of that, bro. Go to a fucking brothel if that’s your endgame. No dancer will go near your lap in a private dance if you’re wearing basketball shorts or sweatpants. We’re way smarter than that.
I have never met one, but I’ve heard of one working in my state (not within my city though). She apparently does very well, since she’s considered a novelty and people travel from other cities to see her. I think it’s great that she’s been so successful and more power to her for owning her body. Also, I can’t help but be reminded of the Amy Poehler character when I think of her.
btw my boyfriend, who is black, is being accused by his coworkers and manager about being involved in the lootings and everything else happening in ferguson strictly because he is black. we only live not even 20 minutes away but the black community surrounding ferguson is also being accused and interrogated literally just because they are black. racism is still here. this will not be on the news or on the internet. keep spreading the word.
Pole causes a lot of different injuries. Most of my work-related injuries have been in my hip joins and rotator cuffs, but every one’s different. Are you learning in a class or at home? Classes are better in terms of avoiding injury because you can have a spotter and also learn to work around certain injuries or deficiencies. I’m sorry about your pain! It might just mean you gotta do something else or let it get used to the sensation. Good luck.